How do you know the difference between regular relationship challenges versus unhealthy relationship behaviors? Is it really easy to miss red flags or do we choose to overlook the
obvious? We want eliminate doubt and confusion regarding your relationship. Learn about the common red flags that are overlooked in relationships and get support today.
Red Flags of Control: Do you or your partner get into disagreements regarding how you should feel about situations? Or disagreements about the way you make decisions (as if they’re
way is the ONLY way)!? Maybe you do your best to avoid an argument or blame because it’s so exhausting or even humiliating. When you do disagree or push back, do you feel as if you are “walking on eggshells?” Tip toeing to avoid drama? This may be a red flag for control in your relationship.
Red Flags of Perfectionism: Do you wonder if you could ever, please your partner enough? Or do you get the feeling that no matter what you do, it will never be good enough? That
there’s always something more to do or not to do. Do you hear criticisms much more often than you hear complements? This may be a red flag for perfectionism.
Red Flags of Blame: Does it seem like your partner just won’t apologize, even when it is clear they were wrong? Do they often push the blame on other factors or even switch the
conversation to things that you do that make them upset? This lack of accountability is not only frustrating, but it can be confusing. You might share your concern and then end up being
accused as the cause of what has hurt you. That they are the victim or the one needing the apology? This may be a red flag for blame.
Red Flags of Denial: It’s difficult to trust someone if their actions don’t line up with what they say. You are often in a state of confusion or digging for evidence of a feeling you have that your partner isn’t being completely honest. This can be them not being honest about how they feel about situations or conflict. Or even how they feel about monogamy. This may indeed be a red flag for denial.
Written By: Natasha D. Oates, Award-Winning Therapist & Relationship Coach