Communication is probably the biggest challenge for couples. Speaking to each other versus speaking with each other is completely different. A lot of times we’re speaking at each other and that comes off very aggressive as opposed to speaking with each other. So, communication is one of those things that’s very important not only regarding discussions but also coming to some form of an agreement.
When there is a lack of communication there can also be a lack of trust. Trust is the key. Most people think that trust should just automatically happen.
It comes through communication and consistency.
We have to be aware of our non-verbal communication (body language/facial expressions) and verbal communication. It is very important that we talk things out. Get on the same page. Oftentimes, if you didn’t start on the right footing like pre-marital counseling or a financial planner you may wonder why you’re disagreeing and fighting. It’s simply because you have not sat down and actually, have a great, open, honest conversation about your viewpoint of money, your understanding of money and your history with money.
Written by: Natasha D. Oates, Award-winning therapist & marriage counselor