Red Flags Most People Overlook in Relationships (Part II)
Are you being honest with yourself about the main issues in your relationship? Are they normal issues or matters that require immediate change and support? Be sure to review Part I and then take a look at additional red flags for relationships: Red Flags of Silence: Have there been major issues that have come up, but your partner refuses to discuss them? Maybe they view discussing concerns as being ungrateful or unnecessary. or those problems are resolved by acting as if nothing bad ever happened. When relationships have a culture of “we don’t talk about problems” it will unintentionally cause a breeding ground for resentment and neglect. This may be a reg flag for silence. Red Flags of Minimizing: Does your partner tend to make your concerns seem like they’re not a big deal? Are issues seen as something to be ignored or just move past without addressing them fully? This type of behavior can make you feel as if you should remain silent about concerns. This may be a red flag for minimizing. Red Flags of Incompletion: Do you or your partner have a hard time letting issues go? Do you often avoid conversations about issues? Are you often confused about why your partner is so upset? This may be a red flag of incompletion. Red Flags of Unreliability: Do you or your partner have a difficult time letting people in? Have you spent most of your life relying on yourself? Do you avoid asking your partner for help or saying what you need so that you won’t be disappointed or hurt? This may be a red flag of unreliability. Written By: Natasha D. Oates, Award-Winning Therapist & Relationship Coach
Red Flags Most People Overlook in Relationships (Part 1)
How do you know the difference between regular relationship challenges versus unhealthy relationship behaviors? Is it really easy to miss red flags or do we choose to overlook the obvious? We want eliminate doubt and confusion regarding your relationship. Learn about the common red flags that are overlooked in relationships and get support today. Red Flags of Control: Do you or your partner get into disagreements regarding how you should feel about situations? Or disagreements about the way you make decisions (as if they’reway is the ONLY way)!? Maybe you do your best to avoid an argument or blame because it’s so exhausting or even humiliating. When you do disagree or push back, do you feel as if you are “walking on eggshells?” Tip toeing to avoid drama? This may be a red flag for control in your relationship. Red Flags of Perfectionism: Do you wonder if you could ever, please your partner enough? Or do you get the feeling that no matter what you do, it will never be good enough? Thatthere’s always something more to do or not to do. Do you hear criticisms much more often than you hear complements? This may be a red flag for perfectionism. Red Flags of Blame: Does it seem like your partner just won’t apologize, even when it is clear they were wrong? Do they often push the blame on other factors or even switch theconversation to things that you do that make them upset? This lack of accountability is not only frustrating, but it can be confusing. You might share your concern and then end up beingaccused as the cause of what has hurt you. That they are the victim or the one needing the apology? This may be a red flag for blame. Red Flags of Denial: It’s difficult to trust someone if their actions don’t line up with what they say. You are often in a state of confusion or digging for evidence of a feeling you have that your partner isn’t being completely honest. This can be them not being honest about how they feel about situations or conflict. Or even how they feel about monogamy. This may indeed be a red flag for denial. Written By: Natasha D. Oates, Award-Winning Therapist & Relationship Coach