Therapy for Black girls isn’t just about finding a Black therapist—it’s about finding someone who truly gets the unique struggles of being a Black woman. Amazing Therapy for Black Girls is about being able to let down your protective wall where you do not need to code switch and perform.
At UP Company, we believe that representation matters. But real healing happens when your therapist understands:
✔ The weight of being “the strong friend” (and how exhausting it is)
✔ How subtle racism impacts your anxiety at the office, expectations in relationships, or your self-worth: always feeling like you’re never doing enough
✔ Why “just pray about it” feels out of touch with what you’re going through. No one should feel blamed or judged like depression is a sin.
If you’ve tried therapy before but still felt misunderstood, here’s how to find amazing therapy—not just basic therapy with any Black therapist..
What Makes Therapy Amazing for Black Girls?
1. They Speak Your Cultural Language
- They don’t dismiss your feelings when you’re angry or hurt
- They understand church hurt / religious trauma, common Black family culture, and colorism without explanation
- They know why “I’m fine” often means “I’m drowning, but no one cares anyway”
2. They Go Beyond Surface-Level Advice
Generic therapy might tell you to:
➜ “Set boundaries!” (But what if your family calls you “disrespectful” for it?)
➜ “Practice self-care!” (But who has time when you’re overworked and underpaid?)
Amazing therapists help you:
➜ Navigate guilt when you finally put yourself first
➜ Heal from racial trauma, not just “manage stress”
➜ Break free from “Strong Black Woman” syndrome—because you deserve to be soft
3. They See All of You
Your therapist should understand how being Black and…
- A dark-skinned woman → affects your dating life or self-esteem
- First-generation college graduate/immigrant → shapes family expectations
- A High Achiever → adds another layer of concerns and challenges
Red Flags That It’s Not the Right Fit
🚩 They dismiss your experiences (“Are you sure it was racism?”)
🚩 They push respectability politics (“Maybe if you spoke differently at work…”)
🚩 They only offer “positive vibes” (ignoring your valid anger or grief)
How to Find Amazing Therapy for Black Girls
1. Ask the Right Questions in Consultations
- “How do you help Black women with [your specific struggle]?”
- “Do you incorporate Black cultural values into therapy?”
- “What’s your approach when clients face racism in real time?”
2. Look for These Keywords in Profiles
- “Anti-oppressive framework”
- “Race-based trauma”
- “Intersectional” or “womanist”
3. Trust Your Gut
- Do you leave sessions feeling lighter—or like you’ve been performing?
- Do they remember details about your life, or does every session feel like a reset?
When “Therapy for Black Girls” Isn’t Enough
Already tried a Black therapist and it didn’t click? You might need:
- A specialist (e.g., for couples, career counseling, trauma, or queer identity)
- A different style (some Black women thrive with humor; others need deep somatic work)
- Group therapy (there’s power in healing with other Black women)
You Don’t Have to Settle
At The UP Company, we get it. Our therapists are:
🔹 Black women who’ve been there
🔹 Experts in racial trauma + depression
🔹 Committed to your version of healing—not respectability politics
👉 Explore our therapy for Black women or book a free consultation to finally feel seen.